We all have those days when we feel like the universe just isn’t on our side. Everything that can go wrong does go wrong, and before you know it the good day you thought you were going to have is nowhere to be found. It happens. And that’s OK. You don’t always have to hold yourself together. I repeat, you don’t always have to hold yourself together. Sometimes we have to accept defeat so that we can move on to better things ahead of us.
When I have off days I allow myself some time to regroup and feel whatever it is I’m feeling. You’d be surprised how liberating that can be. Once I’ve done that I go about the business of doing things that bring me comfort.
The first thing I do is wash off the day. I don’t know what it is about taking a hot shower after a long day but it just feels so great. I feel calmer and less tense than I did before. Another thing I like to do is read a book, specifically a fiction book. It takes my mind off of the negative and feels like a little escape from reality (hence, fictional book). If I’m not reading anything I’ll watch one of my favorite movies or an episode of my favorite show (Grey’s Anatomy). I’ll make myself a cup of coffee and by the time I know it I’m already feeling a little better. It’s the little things.
If I’m having an exceptionally bad day I’ll cry it out. I don’t know about you but sometimes I just need to cry out everything I’m feeling so that I can move on from it. I know it’s not the best option but when you bottle up everything you’re feeling things can seem ten times worse than they actually are. For the longest time I used to force myself to hold it in and then I got older and realized how unhealthy that was for me. Now if I feel like I need to cry I do… and then I pick myself up and keep going.
Sometimes things do really suck and crappy things happen in our lives but the important thing to remember is that it will get better. Remember, whatever it is that you’re feeling wont last forever. If it weren’t for those bad days we wouldn’t have the opportunity to appreciate the good ones. So put on your favorite face mask, read the book, eat some chocolate, and then keep going.
You’ve got this.